Tuesday, 29 September 2009

Oklahoma, Where Divorce Comes Sweeping Down the Plains

Published September 28, 2009 @ 06:58PM PT

Divorce

When it comes to looking at the issue of marriage equality, it's pretty interesting to look at Oklahoma and Massachusetts. Massachusetts legalized same-sex marriage five years ago, and has been out in the forefront of LGBT rights more than almost any other state. It has the lowest divorce rate in the country.

Oklahoma, meanwhile, has passed a statewide constitutional amendment banning gay marriage. In 2008, every single county in Oklahoma voted against President Barack Obama. Both of Oklahoma's U.S. Senators are as anti-LGBT as politicians come. And the state is home to one of the most offensive politicians in the country, Rep. Sally Kern, who has said that gay marriage was as threatening as terrorism. Funny, then, that Oklahoma has one of the highest divorce rates in the entire country.

New statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau show that Oklahoma has the highest rate of residents who have been married three times or more. Oddly enough, Newt Gingrich and Rush Limbaugh -- both members of the family values crowd who are thrice married -- aren't from Oklahoma. But still...it's a bit illustrative, to say the least, that the more a state goes ballistic over the idea of same-sex marriage, the more likely they are to have behemoth divorce rates.

And this isn't a new phenomenon, either. Ten years ago studies were out that suggested states in the "Bible Belt" couldn't keep a handle on their divorce rates. Looks like the more things have changed over the past decade, the more things have stayed the same in some regions of the country.

Or perhaps better put, states that legalize marriage equality are just better at fostering loving relationships that last.

(Photo courtesy of Cosmic Kitty's photostream on Flickr.)


Courtesy of my sweet friend Anthony. Thanks Darling!

Thursday, 24 September 2009

LET'S HEAR IT FOR KELLY OSBOURNE!



A huge round of applause for the wonderfully, delicious Kelly Osbourne! She’s not the only one who’s fed up with emaciated girls, being held up as icons we should all aspire to.

I’ve nothing against girls who are naturally skinny -- in fact at the age of 17, I weighed all of 98 pounds! I just couldn’t put on weight. I could eat and eat, and didn’t put a pound on. I remember when I was around 14, my mum fed me a concoction of malt and cod liver oil. It was supposed to make me gain weight. It was revolting. It stuck in the back of my throat and make me retch. And still I never put on a pound. To this day I can’t stand the taste of malt and as for cod liver oil -- well…

It’s all changed now, of course. The pounds have gone on. I weigh in at 140 pounds. I wouldn’t mind losing a bit, but I’m not going to make myself miserable about it.

So, yes, lets hear it for Kelly. Here’s what she says.

“I just get depressed in Los Angeles. Because I’m not a size zero and tanned and blonde I get scrutinised. But I wouldn’t want to be so skinny. I feel sorry for the girls who aspire to be size zero. It’s okay to be different. I don’t understand why everyone is so obsessed with making themselves a clone. Everyone has become a sheep. These girls don’t eat, stick their fingers down their throats and do loads of speed - they’re killing themselves and for what? Their own vanity! It’s sad. I don’t think there’s anything trendy about looking like you’ve just come out of Auschwitz.”

Bloody well said, girl!

And then there are those who should know better. At age 35, Victoria Beckham, with her skinny little body, looks ridiculous. What looks fey and ethereal, at 17, looks so very wrong in your mid-thirties. Victoria’s body looks out of proportion -- nothing short of silly. Her tiny body has the effect of making her head look enormous. I can’t see anything attractive about Victoria’s look. To me she looks grotesque -- like a mutant insect, with a bad dose of radiation sickness.

All around me I see women of my age, in our middle years, frantically dieting and frankly, looking ill. It’s a look to shun, not to embrace.

Monday, 21 September 2009

CONGRATULATIONS!


CONGRATULATIONS, STEPHEN AND GEORGE!


Congratulations, my dears, on the occasion of your civil partnership. (Not a wedding!)


Thank you for a wonderful luncheon party on Saturday. So many old friends to catch up with, and so many new ones. Sorry I didn’t stay for the evening party -- but someone would have thrown me in the swimming pool!


Have a fantastic life together -- be happy and healthy always.


The illustration is; BIBLICAL DAVID AND JONATHAN EMBRACE. Manuscript illustration. La Somme le Roy. Circa 1300 A.D.

David and Jonathan are the Gay lovers in the Bible. Hotly denied by Christians everywhere. But really…


And thanks to the Viscount, and Cousin James, for getting me safely to London and home again. Sorry I got us lost in the West End!

Love Always.

billierosie

Friday, 18 September 2009

JANINE ASHBLESS. DARK ENCHANTMENT


I thought that Janine Ashbless had pushed the boundaries as far as she could go, in her collection of erotic stories, CRUEL ENCHANTMENT. I was wrong. In DARK ENCHANTMENT, this wonderful writer goes further. In CRUEL ENCHANTMENT, Janine unashamedly confronted the taboos of bestiality and necrophilia. In DARK ENCHANTMENT, she moves the goal post, easily tackling on incest, degradation, humiliation and the cruellest and sexiest bondage scene I’ve ever read. BDSM at its most extreme. The stories in this collection are no less dark and compelling than in CRUEL ENCHANTMENT; they are exotically erotic, pornographic if you prefer, and wildly, wildly sexy.

In “Scratch,” Nicholas Scratch comes calling. He’s not a welcome visitor, at least not welcome by Maarten, the owner of the prosperous farm. His wife, Mercy, has told him; “I have a past…” She has made Maarten promise he will not question her about it. He complies, but is bewildered by his wife’s submissive behaviour to their handsome visitor. She kneels at Scratch’s feet; her humility is confusing and Maarten is angered. He is humiliated when Scratch takes Mercy to the marital bedroom, telling Maarten he is going to have sex with her. This is a tale of degradation, buggery and adultery, as Maarten is ordered into Scratch’s game of violation and depravity. Despite himself, Maarten experiences; “a wild sickening arousal…” He succumbs to the Master’s demands. There is never a question of not obeying.

I think that “The Red Thread,” is the best story that Janine has written. It’s a story of love, sex, lust, betrayal and death. It is also wildly erotic. Asterion, is condemned to live for ever in the labyrinth. He is a monster, half man, half bull. His conception is the result of his mother’s depraved copulation with a bull. He is the Minotaur. He is secretly visited in the dark labyrinth, by his wilful young sister, Ariadne. She seduces him into an incestuous relationship with her. Finally she betrays him, and Asterion is killed. This is the first Minotaur story I have read, that shows Asterion in a sympathetic light. In the myth, which has been told, and retold so many times, the Minotaur is a creature to be feared and despised. Janine sent me a link to a story by the Spanish writer, Jorge Luis Borges. Borges too, tells the Minotaur story, from Asterion’s point of view. Both he and Janine, show a depth of compassion to Asterion, which is quite overwhelming.

I must stress though, that it is not necessary to be familiar with, or have read, the ancient Greek myths to appreciate and understand this story. Janine’s story stands on its own. Similarly with another story in the collection; “Ruby Seeds.” It’s an old myth cleverly retold. Alluring, at times scary, and very sexy. This is another story which stood out for me.

In “Darkling I listen,” Janine talks to us about the idea of stories. Stories within stories. A young woman tells a story to a ghoul. Her rhythmic language draws us in to a tale of love and death. Sex and death. A choice of whether to abide in the city of the dead, or the city of the living.

“The Scent of Hawthorn,” tells a story of Knights of Olde. Laying down your life for a cause. Herrick is a big man, a knight, tired and war weary. His final quest is to restore a village, shattered by a rebellious dryad; a tree woman. Herrick tells the broken villagers tales of war and glory. He convinces them, and convinces himself that he will be successful and the village will prosper once more. He leaves for the forest on foot, but he has underestimated his adversary. The dryad has him spread and bound. She tortures him and despite his shame, the knight realises his cock is erect and he suffers the ecstasy, and the final humiliation, of her fucking him. She forbids him to come; he does, and that seals his fate.

From an ancient Minoan civilisation, Janine moves to the paranormal present day. From a past, rich with dryads, knights and deep woodlands, to a prosperous homestead, Janine’s stories are brimming with lust, sex, betrayal, and death, as she skilfully draws out our darkest fears and desires. Janine goes beyond mere fetish, exposing our fatal flaws and secrets. She takes our hidden fantasies, holds up the mirror, and reflects them back to us. We thought we were safe with our little depravities. The stories whisper the unspoken things; the obscenities we nurture, yet deny. Janine’s stories are cathartic and we are compelled to listen.

Tuesday, 15 September 2009

Review of AFTER THE BEEP Simon Sheppard

I asked the Viscount Andrew to write something for my blog, and he sent me this great review of Simon Sheppard’s erotic short story, 'After the Beep.' Thank you -- your Royal Highness!

After the Beep

I am quite sure that most of us at some point in our lives have fallen in love with a voice at the end of a phone. Many of us in the pre internet dating days may have tried phone dating and conjured up all kinds of fantasy images in our heads and had hoped the voice on the end of the receiver (even the word receiver has connotations in this story) matches the ideal we conjure up for ourselves in our minds.

‘After The Beep’ takes this idea a stage further and in this ‘erotic’ short story by Simon Sheppard, the protagonist is really turned on by a mystery, deeply masculine voice on his answer machine that instructs him in all kinds of oneism that becomes more and more developed and complex as the story progresses. Initially our hero sees the whole thing as a bit of joke, enjoying the moment and then popping a lean cuisine in the microwave. As the days go by he becomes increasingly and madly aroused to the point of wild anticipation. He looks forward to getting home and receiving further instructions from his mystery male caller. Like Pavlov and his doggies our chap begins to get hard when the answer phone message light flashes so imagine how disappointed he is when it’s his mum!

I found this story amusing, it made me titter rather than laugh but I can’t say it turned me on. Men we are told are basically visual creatures needing to see touch and smell the object of their sexual desire whilst women are more cerebral or so they say. I guess this short story challenges that idea a bit as our hero is turned on by a voice and it is indeed the fantasy realm he enters that does the business for him. Our protagonist never meets the caller, he almost does but of course to do so would destroy the fantasy and how dreadful it would be if the caller was old, buck toothed or god forbid disabled! Could this story be hinting at an alternative sexuality where there is never any physical contact with another human being? Is that the way forward in today’s busy, worrisome world, where meeting new people for anything can be tricky?

I remember arranging a date with a guy years ago and we decided to meet in Northampton town centre, his voice on the phone was perfection so I had very high hopes. In my head, the stranger on the phone was dark, manly and natural. Needless to say when I saw him I carried on walking and never spoke to him again. ‘After The Beep’ could illustrate the perfect fantasy where there is no risk, no danger of disappointment and no need ever to cook breakfast!

Viscount Andrew

Monday, 14 September 2009

Uniform Dating TV Advert

At last, I've found a fetish I can relate to. Guys in uniform -- wow!