Friday, 5 February 2016
A COOL INTERVIEW WITH THE VERY COOL AMYAimee
BillieRosie talks to A. Aimee, author of "Good Pussy Bad Pussy – Rachel's Tale" and "Good Pussy Bad Pussy in Captvity", about sex, writing and her books.
Amy's popular Good Pussy Bad Pussy books are getting great 5 Star reviews on Amazon and Goodreads. If you're looking for hot sexy reads that captivate, intrigue, challenge – and keep you turning the pages – you won't want to miss her books.
When I sat down with Amy to talk about her books, here's what she had to say:
What was the inspiration for your Good Pussy Bad Pussy books?
Besides writing page-turning erotic thrillers, I wanted to write about orgasm as a portal to ecstasy and the death of the ego. I wanted to write about how great sex is a portal into the flow state where we experience timeless awareness and the ecstatic feeling of being fully present in this now moment. I wanted to write about orgasm as the ultimate surrender which leads to the amazing blissfulness which each of us experience when we are finally, finally able to let go completely. And then I wanted to add to this an exploration of the conundrum that arises if we have reached this blissful state of complete surrender in and through situations (and/or with people) that we don’t particularly like or find acceptable. In other words, what happens when the body experiences one thing while the mind is screaming something else? And by this I mean – our bodies are designed so that when we are stimulated sexually, the sensations are pleasurable whether or not we like the person we’re with or the situation we’re in. And this is something many people experience (though they may not admit it or talk about it) and it leaves them confused, ashamed and/or upset when it happens. Because how can something (in this case orgasm) be both objectionable and pleasurable at the same time? It’s a real dilemma. So how do we live with this experience and deal with it? What does it do to us? And how can we live with this both on a personal and social level?
So this is what happens to Rachel, the main character in my books. In her attempt to escape an unhappy marriage, Rachel runs away and discovers and experiences great sexual release in ways that surprise and delight her but are not always socially acceptable. Hence the title of the book – Good Pussy Bad Pussy.
Then I also wanted all this to take place against the backdrop of our modern day society – with all its ideas about marriage, fidelity and monogamy which so often block or twist or pinch off our natural sexual drive/energy and our ability to experience our own Divinity through our sexuality. So to do this, I wrote about a woman who wasn’t so hung up as most women are today in terms of being jealous and possessive. Rachel, my heroine, isn't so concerned with the ownership of a partner – she is more free and open even if she is confused and insecure. So I wanted to see where this would take her and what would happen to her…. Especially because it seems to me that so many of the present generation of couples in their 30s (who are children of parents from the 1960s) have reverted back to a much more limited and conventional lifestyle in terms of couple relationships and sexuality than many of their own parents had. All of which has nothing to do with our ability to experience the ecstatic release we are all seeking…
So yes, I tried to mix all this together and from what readers and reviewers are saying, I can see I have managed to stir some of this up. Many readers/reviewers say they initially didn’t like the main character, Rachel, because of what she does, but then as they follow her through the story, they come to understand her and finally really love her and her journey.
How did you come up with the “Good pussy, bad pussy” theme?
It's kinda the story of my life so I didn't really have to come up with anything! As far as the Good Pussy Bad Pussy books are concerned – in addition to all the drama and sex – the books are, as I say above, all about sexual dilemmas. Questions arise like – is this love or abuse? Is this subjugation or liberation? In other words, what's going on here? And who knows what's good or bad when it comes to sex??!!.
When did you decide to become an erotic writer? Why?
I'm an international author with 15 books published in over 25 languages, so I've been writing all my life. As for being an "erotic" writer, well I don't think about it like that at all. I am just writing about life – and isn't sex a part of life? So as far as I'm concerned, the real question is – why do we label something as wonderful and normal as sex as "erotic" or "erotica" to begin with? It's as if there's something unusual or wrong about sex and our sex lives. But hasn't everyone noticed – we're all doing "it"! So how about we get real and embrace the wonders of our sexuality and just enjoy it a little more?
How do you get inspiration for your books?
I never go looking for books or stories. They just find me. Suddenly they are there. It's as if I'm a channel and every book I've ever written has just come flowing through me...
Is there any part of the Good Pussy Bad Pussy books that are based on your personal experiences?
The line between fact and fiction is always hard to define. The Good Pussy Bad Pussy books are both works of fiction but no author can write convincingly about something he or she knows nothing about!
Do your family read your books?
Whom do you like to read?
David Hawkins, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Sri Nisargadatta...
What is the craziest thing you have done because of sex?
Marrying husbands 1, 2 and 3.
What’s the best thing about sex?
For my answer, see my blog: "Orgasm – orgasm – finally – FINALLY – we get a chance to lose our f*cking minds!" Click here to read it: http://bit.ly/1Ljjfx3
What would you suggest to people who want to improve their sex lives?
If you need sex advice, you're already off track... because.. when it comes to sex... we’ve got it all backwards! Backwards! Here's why – but first some statistics....
43% of women are unable to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse.
80% of women judge their body.
46% of women who judge their body are unable to reach orgasm.
The prefrontal cortex of your brain must shut down in order to reach orgasm - this part of your brain regulates control, fear, and anxiety.
So... in a brave attempt to deal with the sorry state of their sex lives, many people decide to try the advice of so-called sex experts or therapists. And these people say things like – if you want to have a good, fulfilling sex life, it’s important to make time to be together in your busy schedules, it’s important to slow down and look each other deep in the eyes. It's important to undress each other slowly and to touch each other all over slowly… and to cultivate intimacy… blah blah blah….
But it's all backwards! We’ve got it all backwards…backwards!
Because the truth of the matter is... this happens naturally when you’re turned on by someone. This happens naturally when you are in the flow and hot! But if you have to work on it, if you have to think about it and plan it and then decide in advance to do it – well it never works! You can look someone deep in the eyes until the cows come home and nothing will happen because you’re not in the flow to begin with. You’re not turned on – so all your thinking and planning amounts to nothing! Because there is so much "effort" involved, because you're trying too hard.
Which leads us to the real question, which is – why aren’t you in the flow to begin with? What’s preventing you from being in the flow right now when it comes to sex? And the answer is usually we aren't in the flow because of all our absolutely crazy, insane ideas about our bodies and sex. And by that I mean all our crazy ideas about how we think our bodies 'should' look and how we think our partners' bodies ‘should’ look. And all our ideas and worries about whether we are making the right moves and whether our partners are making the right moves. And there are all our ideas about how we think and believe this whole sexual experience ‘should’ proceed and what it ‘should’ look like. And well... you catch my drift. It’s enough to drive anyone crazy. Really. All this planning and thinking and worrying and trying to figure everything out. All of which is completely the opposite of being in flow. And if there’s anything that’s about flow – it’s sex!
Yes indeed! Sex is all about flow. Have you noticed?
So the truth is you can’t THINK your way to good sex, it’s just not possible. Because good sex is not a mental thing. Good sex is about surrendering to the flow. Good sex is truly a swooning, NO MIND, flow experience… that’s what it's all about.
So if you are having problems with your sex life, I suggest you try forgetting all about your problems and just go for the flow of life in general. Focus instead on all places in your life where you are in flow. Focus on all the things in your life that make your heart sing. Just be happy and cultivate the flow state and then see what happens to your sex life!
Because the secret is this: People who have a great sex life, don’t think about how to make it work.... They just go with the flow…
A. Aimee is a modern woman and international author who is writing in the great tradition of women authors who want the freedom to openly and honestly explore controversial issues concerning women, sex, women’s liberation, sexual freedom, women’s rights to their own bodies, relationships, and the changing role of women in the world today.
Her books include "Good Pussy Bad Pussy – Rachel's Tale" and "Good Pussy Bad Pussy in Captivity". For more see her Web site: www.goodpussybadpussy.com
Buy Links for the Good Pussy Bad Pussy Books, Good Pussy Bad Pussy – Rachel's Tale by A. Aimee.
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Good Pussy Bad Pussy In Captivity by A. Aimee
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